Having Bad Vibes About Someone Again

  1. Lavenders

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    I wanted to share with you all an article that helped me identify the source of the concerns I've had with this pregnancy, after having a kid with a serious heart defect several years ago. Maybe there are some worriers out in that location like me, that could exist helped...

    "When you take a bad feeling that something is going to happen" by Lisa HW

    It Isn't Necessarily Something of a Paranormal Nature
    Nearly of the time, when you have a feeling that something bad is going to happen, it is acquired by one of three things:

    1. In that location is something that you lot know is going on that has the potential of resulting in something bad happening; or else is a thing of increasingly defying the odds of having something bad happen.

    But as nosotros oftentimes pick up "subtle vibes" from coming together new people, nosotros often selection up (without ever realizing it) similar subtle vibes about ourselves and whatever number of situations. My most memorable instance is that when I was expecting one of my babies I "just felt like" the baby would be born early. There was no outward reason to think that, and the doctor didn't take me seriously when I told him I "just had a feeling" the baby would arrive also early. Once I reached five months along I had dreams about having a tiny, tiny, baby. (In one dream, the tiny baby was sitting happily in a crib, and then they weren't horrible dreams.) On the first evening of the childbirth form the teacher asked who idea they may not get the whole six weeks. My paw just seemed to get upward without my really having whatever reason to raise it. The form was to meet for a second time the post-obit week. I was non there. Instead, I was delivering my baby at 34 weeks.

    The infant was born breech, and it was discovered that he had been in an odd position. I had e'er known that my "baby bump" was kind of off to the side; and I had been far more uncomfortable than anyone should be then early in the pregnancy. The point is I was probably getting those "vibes" that something was "off" with the pregnancy, fifty-fifty though all seemed generally normal. With the next pregnancy I recognized the absence of feeling "off".

    In that location are whatsoever number of those kind of "vibes" nosotros can pick upwardly on when there'south a situation that is "sending them". The "carefree" person who knows he has several fire hazards in his home may non really pay much attention to the take chances, but somewhere in the back of his heed he may know he'due south living a lilliputian dangerously. Some who feels his life is out of control may pick up on "vibes" that tell him something bad is going to happen.

    2. You may be particularly stressed out and anxious (and possibly suffering from depression, as well).

    With regard to stress and anxiety, when nosotros're under stress or anxiety nosotros showtime to live "nether the influence" of "stress chemicals" and the changes in our bodies that occur when we're living under stress. We aren't are "usual calm selves", so that, alone, makes u.s. feel more generally nervous (needless to say). Depending on the number of causes of stress, and the severeity of stress/distress, nosotros get can to a point where we don't just feel uncertain or ungrounded, we can beginning to get into the "what's-going-to-happen-next" kind of thinking.

    Going through recent (or fairly recent) grief or serious loss; or going through too much grief or serious loss in besides brusque a menstruum of time; tin contribute to that kind of thinking. Even when nosotros think grief or loss occurred "a while ago" in that location are times when we underestimate how long it takes to fully bounciness back from such things.

    A friend once described the way life'southward troubles come like this: She said troubles tin can be like frosting on a cake. Some people can have a sparse layer spread over the whole cake (equally when many, many, smaller troubles keep occurring over a long period of time); or they tin accept "one, behemothic, lump dumped in one spot on the cake" (as when some extremely devastating loss occurs). In both types of situations a person tin develop that sense that life will come at him from out of the blue and "kicking him in the head" one time over again. We larn from our experiences, and sometimes we learn that bad things come at united states of america "out of the blueish". Sometimes, also, we over-acquire that hard lesson and can have a difficult time finding our style back to a more than appropriate, realistic, sense of well-beingness.

    three. Some people, for whom everything in life is more often than not expert, develop a worry that the odds of having something bad happen will inevitably turn against them. Depending on the person and his experiences, this worry can be either relatively pocket-sized or, instead, an actual fear.

    In general, this kind of thought is something that doesn't bother most people much, even if it has occurred to them and they've had to tuck it in the dorsum of their minds. Some people, however, are plagued by more disturbing degrees of this kind of thinking. This kind of thinking, though, is usually more than "open" than that feeling people sometimes get that something bad is going to happen, even though they don't quite know what it may be.

    Needless to say, anyone plagued past too many worrisome thoughts or feelings should consider seeking professional assistance. Oft, however, by beingness enlightened of how "spooky" thoughts can occur equally a result of that subtle sensation that we (or people close to us) are inviting disaster, or as a result of living with a by and large "unsettled" feeling equally a result of stress/distress; we can better understand the roots of those "chilling" thoughts and see them for what they truly are.

  2. Clover Jane

    Good advice.
    On the other paw, people like me- I have diagnosed Generalized Anxiety Disorder- always feel similar something's wrong.
    In my life, this is compounded by the fact that something usually really is (I have two grown sons who are not adjusting well to adulthood, to say the least; I'm on the path to worrying myself into an early grave).

    Just anyhow, I just wanted to point out that sometimes you can strongly feel something is wrong, and you lot tin exist incorrect in that assessment; this is especially true if you are a chronic worrier.

    Of form, if you're not prone to being a worrywart, then you should take your feelings seriously when they arise.

  3. catcatcat

    catcatcat Well-Known Member

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    ive got that besides clover jane, im driving myself mad this pg with worry. im going to the drs monday to register my pg and inquire what can be done about gad. I will be happier when im out of the woods worrying about a mc following the concluding one.
    worst thing for me is i am a worrier but i also get those feelings and its trying to piece of work out the deviation. i knew in that location wasnt a baby when i was pg with the mc and this time im sure there is a babe simply its not helping all the branches of worry that are cropping up. my best friend works in the mental health profession and even she cant aid.
  4. JackiePed

    Ok... I'm in tears after reading that. I know role of it is being meaning and crying over Anything...but withal...

    I always think something is incorrect. And my 'feeling' is never correct. In fact, information technology makes it worse because when something DOES go wrong, I had no 'feeling' to warn me, and when I accept a plaguing 'feeling', nothing is really wrong.

    I, besides, was Sure my son was going to exist born prematurely. for no REAL reason.. I mean, my daughter was early on but only by a few weeks...didn't cause any issues... but I was Certain I had a preemie on the way.
    Nope. He was born at 38 ane/2 weeks.

    Anyways... this article hit me for ii reasons. Offset, when it mentioned someone who is Certain something bad is going to happen because their life is going so well... I experience that. All the fourth dimension. I feel like, though my babyhood wasn't easy, I actually have not had a TRAGEDY...therefore I'm due i. What will it be?? Volition I lose my hubby?? One of my precious children?? ALL OF THEM???:wacko:

    Secondly, this part of the article hitting me, "In both types of situations a person tin develop that sense that life volition come at him from out of the blue and "kick him in the caput" again. We larn from our experiences, and sometimes we larn that bad things come at us "out of the blue". Sometimes, besides, nosotros over-learn that hard lesson and can accept a difficult fourth dimension finding our way back to a more advisable, realistic, sense of well-beingness."

    Sometimes I wonder... with all the turmoil and missing memories from when I was immature... I have adjusted so well. I never thought of myself equally 'kicked in the head' past life, even though some may have seen my life that way. And then tears welled upwardly in my eyes when I read that and thought, "Deep down.... is that how I feel?? Have I NEVER BEEN ABLE to admit it or see information technology for what information technology is?"

    Then again, maybe I'm just neurotic. Period. :)

    Thanks for sharing. Very needed. :hugs:

  5. JackiePed

    That'due south the hardest function. Everyone says 'listen to your instincts'....but I've decided I have none. Possibly that is because my chronic worrywart-ing has overshadowed any genuine instinct that I would have.

    DH and I express joy alot at my constant worrying, it'south a little 'joke' about me...and, shamefully, he's the only one in on the joke considering I hibernate it from everyone else. He is the only i who knows what'due south going on in my caput, and he only knows the half of it!!
    I hibernate it considering I don't want to seem like a neurotic worrier...and because I feel similar I handle information technology in as healthy a fashion equally I can on my own.
    But sometimes I wonder if I practice myself a disservice by non looking into the possibility of anxiety disorders.

    The thought is scary, considering anxiety and low took my female parent away from me and turned her into someone who stopped trying to live. She got plenty of 'aid' and diagnoses, and it doesn't seem to be helping her one bit. So I'm terrified to think of even going that road considering my husband has seen what happened to my mother...I don't want him to call back that will exist me in 20 years....

  6. Clover Jane

    Am I the only one who subconsciously feels that by worrying- by making myself suffer with anxiety- I am somehow magically preventing bad things from happening to my loved ones?

    As ridiculous as it sounds, I retrieve that's exactly what i believe.
    When I stop worrying, even for a petty while, i feel guilty. I feel something terrible will happen to my boys, because I forgot to worry about them.

    I'1000 probably psychotic. :wacko:

  7. catcatcat

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    Then u take that atrocious thought that if u remember about something as well much you could make it happen or that the word affliction can be broken downwards to dis- ease and if you arent happy & relaxed you could brand yourself sick. Ive had every disquiet nether the sunday this wk. My anxiety is health related so pregnancy is nifty - not.

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